Mistake #9: Putting Too Much Pressure On Your Role
You could be the absolute best mom.
You could do all the right things.
You could give your kids every advantage in life.
But guess what?!
They may still end up unhappy.
They may not get into the school or job that they want.
They may not have the relationships they want.
They may struggle financially or emotionally.
They may struggle with their health.
They may make a ton of mistakes.
They may get caught up in alcohol or drugs.
They may not have the vision of success that you envisioned for them.
Or maybe they will.
But it may not have as much to do with you as you think.
Just like most things in life, your child’s outcome is based on multiple factors and you are just ONE of those factors.
Factors that play a role in your child’s ultimate outcome include their genetic make-up including their physical, mental and emotional predisposition. It includes their inborn temperament and character. It includes environmental factors including birth order, family make-up and conditions and social and educational environment. It also includes their own free will. It does include your input, but that is only a single of many, many factors that are out of your control.
Please stop believing that every choice you make and every action you take will either make them or break them. It will either send them down road number one to success or road number two to heartache.
This may sound extreme, but it’s kind of how most of us moms, especially us “high achieving” moms operate. We get very caught up in doing all the “right” things for our kids, mistakenly thinking that these decisions will lead to a path of happiness and success for our child.
We are just fooling ourselves into thinking we have that much control. We never did and never will.
We are simply flawed human beings doing our best with what we have raising other flawed human beings with their own free will who will do their best with what they have.
We are fooling ourselves into thinking we have that much control. We never did and never will.
Mindful Doc Mom
That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t keep trying to do our best by our children and keep improving and growing ourselves. In fact, I would argue that there is almost no better way on this earth to evolve as a human being as becoming a parent. Parenting is a continual exercise in growth.
So stop putting so much pressure on yourself, moms!
Your child has their own journey and their own mission here on earth and you are a part of it, but not the only part.
AND, you don’t even know what that journey is supposed to be.
That’s ok. Their journey is for them to take and their mission is for them to discover.
It was always meant to be that way.
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