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These eight words have dramatically changed how I see myself and the relationship I have with myself and others. Read them again. You are a soul. You have a body. What if this were true? Would it change anything for you? If you believed that you are a soul who wears their body as a …
Mistake #11: Thinking that your child is an extension of you (and Not Taking Up Your Rightful Space) This is the final parenting mistake I’m going to discuss in this series that I started a few weeks ago. There are many others, but I think this is a good place to stop and this particular …
Mistake #10: Spending Too Much Time In Guilt Most of us judge ourselves way too harshly. We do something that we regret and then we are ridden with guilt. We snapped or yelled too much or didn’t give enough attention to our child. We worked too much. We were unkind or unfair. We criticized or …
Mistake #9: Putting Too Much Pressure On Your Role You could be the absolute best mom. You could do all the right things. You could give your kids every advantage in life. But guess what?! They may still end up unhappy. They may not get into the school or job that they want. They may …
Mistake #8: Listening to others more than to your own wisdom When it comes to parenting, everyone has lots of opinions on just about everything. Advice starts coming even before you have the baby. There are ideas about when you should get pregnant. What you should or shouldn’t eat while pregnant. How active you should …
Mistake #7: Indulging in Compare and Despair How many times have you compared yourself or your life as a mom to someone else’s and found that you and your life come up short? Monthly? Daily? Multiple times a day? Their body bounced back from pregnancy so much faster than mine. Their kids are easier. Their …
Mistake #6: Living by a To-Do List rather than a Results List One of the most common words that most moms (myself included) use to describe their days and weeks is “busy”. I’m SO busy. There’s too much to do and not enough hours in a day. I have a list a mile long. It’s …
Mistake #5: Overconsuming There’s a 90-9-1 rule of participation in social media. 90% of users are lurkers – they read or observe, but don’t contribute. 9% of users contribute from time to time. 1% of users participate a lot and account for most of the contributions. The rule describes how most users don’t participate very …
Mistake #4: Avoiding discomfort Avoiding discomfort in parenting is not doing the things you know you should be doing because you don’t like how you’ll feel when you do it. This could look like avoiding setting boundaries or rules on chores or bedtimes or language or behavior or curfews, for instance. If you set these …
I am continuing with the list I am sharing of my 13 mistakes that suck the joy out of parenting and make it harder than it has to be. Mistake #3: Not evaluating yourself Most of us don’t like negative feedback. We don’t want to see the not so great part of ourselves, the messy …