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We think our feelings are very important. And they are. But not for the reasons we think they are. Feelings are not important because of how intense they can be or how positive or negative we experience them. They are important because they are the reason we do or don’t do anything. Our feelings drive …
Yesterday I introduced “The Model” which is a simple, yet powerful tool that can help you get to the root cause of any problem in your life. As a reminder, the model consists of 5 parts: C, T, F, A, R or Circumstances, Thoughts, Feelings, Actions, and Results. Today I want to focus on the …
There are things you learn in life that once you know, you can’t unknow. Or things you see that you can’t unsee. That’s how it felt when I learned about “The Model”. The Model is a construct developed by Brooke Castillo, founder of The Life Coach School, where I trained and certified as a life …
Think about your life and what isn’t working. Are you overweight? Are you burned out at work? Are your relationships suffering? Why do you think this is? Pay close attention to the story you tell. We tell ourselves stories about our lives all the time. We tell them like they’re facts. Like we’re reporting the …
Recently one of my kids had to get an MRI scan. It wasn’t her first time, but it had been a while and long enough for her to forget the details. She wasn’t nearly as scared of the actual test, despite the fact that it would be loud and enclosed over her head and she …
I am surrounded by people all day, but I often feel alone. I’ve had years of training and experience, but I don’t have all the answers. My mission is to help, but I can feel completely helpless. There is noise all around me: IV lines beeping, nurses chatter, TV’s playing, but my pager makes me jump. …
With Spring and warmer weather just around the corner and thousands more people vaccinated against Covid each day, there’s a sense of freedom in the air. Freedom to see friends and family. Freedom to go to restaurants. Freedom to make travel plans. It’s a cautious freedom, but progress nonetheless. In the Jewish calendar, a lunisolar …
It’s been exactly one year since everything in the world changed and shut down. On Friday March 13, 2020 my kids went to school for what would be the last time for the rest of the year. When I look back at this last year, there are so many lessons that I’ve learned. Here are …
I recently coached a fellow physician about the stress she feels during some of her outpatient clinic days. She had several thoughts about what happens and what should or shouldn’t happen. For example, clinic should run on time. Patients shouldn’t be late. I should get to eat lunch. Patients shouldn’t have unrealistic expectations and bring …
Last night I heard a sound that I have not heard in some time – laughter from all my kids. It was not just regular laughter, but that deep belly laughter that often ends up in snorts. We were celebrating the holiday of Purim in a very Covid fashion by listening to the typical Megilla …