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By this time at the end of January, most people have all but given up on their New Years resolutions. We started off so motivated and excited. Things are going to be different this year. We are going to be different, better. Maybe it’s a new routine such as working out. Or maybe it’s a …
I recently posted my very first Facebook story. I know, I know. I’m far behind the times. Tech isn’t really my thing, okay! It was a picture of my daughter at her first out of town basketball tournament standing at the free throw line making the shot. My husband captured the photo just as the …
Today in America we celebrated the holiday of Martin Luther King Jr. Day. Today in Israel another holiday was celebrated, Tu Bishvat, or the New Year for Trees. Tu Bishvat is celebrated on the 15th day of the Hebrew month of Shevat when sap begins to flow in the trees. It is curious that the …
My husband was pulling out of the garage one recent evening. At that exact moment, my daughter’s carpool ride pulled into our driveway perpendicular to my husbands car. It was dark outside, the dog was barking, and I opened the front door to let my daughter out just as I saw a horrific image: my …
In the last post, I discussed the concept of “emotional childhood”, where we attribute our emotions to external circumstances. This is the place where most of us live the majority of the time, giving our power over to the world around us and letting our emotions be dependent on factors outside of our control. The …
Most of us have not evolved much past childhood in how we manage our emotions. Emotional childhood means not taking responsibility for how we feel. Just as a child depends on their parents to meet their needs, we often depend on the outside world to meet our emotional needs. Think about the last time you …
I always knew that I had some control over the results of my life. What I didn’t know was that I had full control. I used to believe that my actions and efforts or lack thereof played an important role. But I also believed that the circumstances of my life played an equally important role. …
Do you find yourself wanting to do something, but not being able to do it? Maybe you’re trying to eat healthier, exercise regularly, or clean out your closet? Do you find yourself wanting to stop doing something, but find that just as difficult? Maybe you want to stop overeating, stop reacting to your loved ones, …
We think our feelings are very important. And they are. But not for the reasons we think they are. Feelings are not important because of how intense they can be or how positive or negative we experience them. They are important because they are the reason we do or don’t do anything. Our feelings drive …
Yesterday I introduced “The Model” which is a simple, yet powerful tool that can help you get to the root cause of any problem in your life. As a reminder, the model consists of 5 parts: C, T, F, A, R or Circumstances, Thoughts, Feelings, Actions, and Results. Today I want to focus on the …